Can you recall a time when one of the kids (or grand-kids) said, “I can do it myself?”
I remember those teachable moments. The first time, and probably at least the second time, I smiled and laughed, because initially it’s charming, isn’t it? And besides, I wanted to respect my child’s desire for independence.
But there were other times when I had to firmly answer, “No, no, I’ll help you.”
Then of course, my child either let me help—or didn’t.
The truth is we want to control or manipulate everything.
We rarely, readily, rely on anyone other than ourselves.
And if we do risk reliance on someone or some thing it’s usually with hesitant suspicion.
Naturally, God isn’t excluded from my “I do it myself” attitude.
Before I’ll trust or accept help I want unmistakable proof that makes sense. Then maybe, I’ll consent to a little assistance.
Why is this?
- Because I’m afraid I’m being lied to.
- Because I’m afraid I’m being taken advantage of.
- Because I resist imparting power to anyone.
Learning to trust is an everyday challenge for me.
Seeing the necessity of reliance (cooperation) is also a continual challenge.
If today I declare, “God I can do this myself,” perhaps, I shouldn’t be surprised to hear,
“No, no, let me help you.”
Our choice is independence or cooperative dependence, isn’t it?