The truth about forgiveness:
- There are things you may have done that others may not forgive you for.
- There are things you may have done that you may not forgive you for.
- There are things you may have done that only God will forgive you for.
The concept of forgiveness is something we have a hard time supporting or defending because we don’t think like God, we don’t act like God, although we often imagine we are God.
Certainly, part of our problem has to be arrogance.
- Vengeance vs. Forgiveness. Or,
- Forgiveness vs. Vengeance.
Arrogance darkens our thinking. We’re only able to see a fraction of our here and now. In God there is no darkness. God sees it all, way beyond our here and now, on into the completion of our there and forever.
Thus, when we recall the horrific stories we’ve heard, or read, or are living through, we’re inclined to demand vengeance, not forgiveness.
- “…And you, you better run because I’m going to destroy you for what you’ve taken from me.” ― Samantha Young, Blood Will Tell
- “Vengeance is sweet. Vengeance taken when the vengee isn’t sure who the venger is, is sweeter still.” ― Gary D. Schmidt, The Wednesday Wars
- “I know there are people who believe you should forgive and forget. For the record, I’d like to say I’m a big fan of forgiveness as long as I’m given the opportunity to get even first.” ― Sue Grafton, V is for Vengeance
Forgiveness is ordinarily an afterthought. But when we’re able to forgive we’ve accomplished something our human nature finds impossible.
- “True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” ― Oprah Winfrey
- “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ― Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections
- “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” ― C.S. Lewis
God is the only one who is able to teach us how to forgive, even when we don’t want to be taught how to forgive.